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Happiness and "Success" Depend on the Friends You Keep

As we age, we often find out that our parents were actually pretty smart after all!  (I can hear teenagers scoffing everywhere!)   And one adage that I heard time and again is "It matters who your friends are."

Once we know what we value, and where we want to go, it's important to surround ourselves with people who hold us to a higher standard in those area.  Whether it's something as simple as associating with people who are fit if you want to exercise more, or as complex as a life-long strategy to have an income independent of a regular wage, research is showing that one of the key factors is: who are your friends?

We often choose those who are, literally, closest to us. (And truth be know, we have more satisfying relationships with people who are in close proximity of 1.5 kms, as opposed to somebody on the other side of the world).  But proximity should not the THE requirement for friendship.

After all, we are who we associate with.

I'm not sure who said that, or if anybody said that.  But if nobody did, then... well... I just did and I claim it... ;)   Dibs!

https://journal.thriveglobal.com/surround-yourself-with-people-who-hold-you-to-a-higher-standard-than-you-hold-yourself-308917d0e5fe

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